Don’t let someone in the cheap seats have an expensive opinion in your life.
This statement. This is so good.
Some Opinions Matter (and Some Don’t!)
I heard this from our girl Rachel Hollis (you know, the author of Girl, Wash Your Face) and, man this resonates.
How often do you let someone else’s opinions matter and determine your worth? How often do you let someone else’s opinion determine if you should continue or give up? How often have you let someone else’s opinion impact your mood? Or how you feel about your body? Or how you’re doing as a mama? Or if you are smart? Or worthy? Or if your dreams are awesome… or awful?
Far too often we ignore our heart, our gut and the good we hear. We ignore it and instead focus on one voice. We hear that person that’s negative, who doubts us, who doesn’t see our greatness, who perhaps is jealous or scared of what you’re capable of accomplishing. And, you listen.
You make yourself smaller or doubt yourself or push yourself down and give value and life to that perspective from way back in the cheap seats.
Do not. Do not listen. Do not even consider someone else’s opinion as fact.
Do not sit on the sidelines for fear of what the naysayers will say.
Because here’s the truth: They’re going to say it anyway.
You write the way you want to write, share what you want to share, parent the way you know is best for your family, and live in a way that brings you joy.
Speak up for what YOU believe, not for what you think someone else in those cheap seats wants to hear from you.
You’re never going to make them happy.
NEVER.
And not only will you never make them happy, you’ll be miserable.
Stick with the women (and men) who want to stand in your light. Who want to help you rise up. Who support you. Who embrace you when you’re down and help lift you up to the place they know you’re capable.
Give the front row seats to the people who you can count on, even if that’s only one right now: YOU.
When it comes to your life, your opinions matter most.
Join the Conversation
Jessica
August 30, 2018 at 10:07 AMThis is sooo on point dear! And yes, other’s opinion should remain as opinion. They should not have the power to control your life. Anyway, thanks for the great read!
Jessica | notjessfashion.com
monica
August 28, 2018 at 8:22 AMGreat reading this! Sometimes just a little comment can throw one out of your dream even if you don’t want to listen. I’ve encountered a couple in my path but trying to make sure to listen less and less until I don’t listen anymore. Loved this, great way to start my day, it put a smile!
Alyson
August 28, 2018 at 3:20 PMAwww, I’m so glad it resonated Monica. It’s unbelievable the impact others words can have, particularly when they are words we shouldn’t give value to. Keep fighting for your dream and push those comments to the side!
Sharon
August 28, 2018 at 7:48 AMThis is the ‘man in the arena’ that Brene brown talks about. I give no weight to people’s opinion who are not in the arena with me. This has been life changing. In return, I am very careful not to give my opinion if I am not or have not been in the arena. I think it is also important to remember that this goes both ways!
Alyson
August 28, 2018 at 3:21 PMTHIS. Sharon, this resonated so much and you are so right. I have heard Brene mention that and totally forgot that wisdom, including how it goes both ways (which I’m likely guilty of!). Thank you.
DIANNE
August 28, 2018 at 6:44 AMSuch a great quote. Thanks for the blog. We all need a reminder of this.
Alyson
August 28, 2018 at 3:21 PMAbsolutely. Xx