Social media can feel like a very superficial place. Instagram, for example, which once felt like this organic behind-the-scenes glimpse at the life of bloggers and friends, has become this perfectly curated space of pretty pictures filled with flowers, sweets you know girls aren’t eating and a constant plethora of stylish new clothes not in my closet.
And, Facebook… ah, Facebook. A few years ago when Facebook hit it big you’d meet someone once and they’d “friend” you. Years later, and who are these people? At times I wouldn’t recognize someone’s name (a la a girl you haven’t chatted with in years who got married) or swear, wouldn’t recognize the profile photo; maybe it was a kid I’ve never seen before or someone who looks so dramatically different than the last time we saw each other in person.
I realized I needed to take matters into my own hands.
I unfollowed. ALOT of people.
Am I mean? Did I hurt someone’s feelings? So many thoughts rushed to my head.
I love that the internet and social media connects all of us but I realized ultimately that people I didn’t know and things I didn’t need were clogging up my ability to see what and who really mattered most.
Social media is completely voluntary, yet it’s easy to forget we make the sole decision who we follow.
I removed 200+ Facebook connections (swear, some were people who passed by me at events or the mall and didn’t recognize me, or say hi… sorry, we’re not pals).
And, then came Instagram. I unfollowed at least 400. Another high five to myself!
It was all so exhilarating and empowering.
Unfollowing doesn’t mean you don’t like what someone is sharing. For example, I unfollowed a slew of gorgeous bloggers solely because their lifestyle of Chanel and Valentino and new, new, new was gorgeous but was making me want things I didn’t need and didn’t make me feel my best. I’m way too blessed to start feeling resentful that I “can’t” have all these designer goods.
I added on Instagram more food and healthy lifestyle bloggers who inspire me with new recipes, workouts and healthy living ideas.
I also know there are people who “hate follow” on social media to bash and make fun of bloggers and others. There are message boards and forums solely to insult and critique others. That hurts my heart and must be unhealthy.
So what do you say… do you unfollow or have you thought about doing so? I’d love for you to comment with your perspective.