My heart has been hurting in such a serious way since last week’s horrific act at Douglas High School. I can’t move on… nor should I. I’m not going to get into gun control and reform here except to say we clearly need to do more to protect our children. Shootings of any kind, especially at school, is not acceptable. We should not be OK with this.
I saw my friend Nicole mention she was doing 17 UNRANDOM ACTS OF KINDNESS in honor of the 17 students who died during the Parkland shooting. “Prayers and thoughts” only do so much; it’s action at all levels that creates change. Our collective voices and actions are powerful… together we can create incredible change.
What can you do? Here are a few ideas for not-so-random acts of kindness you can do today.
Smile at strangers.
Pay it forward and purchase coffee for the person behind you.
Help a mama who is clearly struggling, whether that means by holding the door, wheeling her grocery cart, giving a smile or an out-stretched hand.
Be extra considerate when you’re calling customer service; imagine how many people they deal with each day that are only calling with problems.
Let someone pass you while driving when you normally wouldn’t.
Surprise a friend or colleague with a small treat or token of appreciation.
Send someone you thought looked gorgeous in a recent FB post a message to tell them (instead of just giving the photo a like and moving along), or take the time to write a meaningful comment on his or her Instagram photo.
Leave the server a larger tip than you normally do.
Find opportunities to compliment people in really sincere ways.
Make sure everyone in your group conversation feels included.
Bring water, muffins or another treat to the hard-working team picking up your neighborhood garbage and recycling.
Say hi to strangers more often; you might be the only person who talks to them today. Never forget that.
Write a positive comment on a blog, web site or LinkedIn profile.
Practice self-love and be a little less critical of yourself today.
Take the time to ask a question to a co-worker, or ask an older relative to tell you a story about their past.
Wheel your neighbor’s trash can up their driveaway.
Put a surprise in someone’s mail box.
Befriend that person at the party (kids party included!) who doesn’t seem to know anyone.
Send someone a text to tell them how much you adore them.
Use your knowledge to help someone else.
You guys… acts of kindness are one of the easiest things we can do, and as you can see, it pretty much costs nothing, not even much of your time. I LOVE giving random compliments; hopefully they’re never creepy, lol… it makes my heart so full.
Quick story: last week at the gym I saw what looked like a daughter with her dad. With his friendly demeanor and larger belly, he honestly reminded me of my dad. In some ways I was overwhelmed with emotion seeing a young girl at the gym with her dad. Many of you know my dad passed away two years ago, somewhat suddenly, due to heart and other issues. And, I could never get him to work out. I could have said nothing to this sweet girl; instead I went up to her and said something to the effect of, “are you working out with your dad?” She replied that he recently had heart surgery and she was motivating him by working out together. It brought tears to my eyes. I bluntly told her that she should be so proud… she should know she is saving his life. It was emotional for both of us, and I could see the pride on her face.
I know I’m on a semi-tangent but I bring this up because we each have so many kind fleeting thoughts throughout the day, and yet, many of them go unsaid. Imagine if we took the time to randomly share more of them.
See what you can do, and I’d love if you took the time to comment below with yours or on The Modern Savvy Facebook page.
Join the Conversation
JessicaMarch 1, 2018 at 9:03 PM
These are really great ideas dear. I love the idea of putting a surprise in someone’s mail. That actually sounds fun, and you can leave a note to ask the person to pass the good deed, and the cycle can go on and on.
Jessica | notjessfashion.com
JackieFebruary 24, 2018 at 7:36 PM
I was going to send a quick text this weekend to a coworker that has been going through a hard time. Just a smile emoji to let her know she was being thought of. I almost did not because I was worried she might not welcome correspondence on the weekend. But than I thought about the acts of kindness post on your blog, so I sent the message and almost instantly got a response back. You are so right, we all need to reach out to one another and just do the act of kindness. I’m glad I did.
lauraFebruary 23, 2018 at 1:13 PM
THIS IS WHY I LOVE THE MODERN SAVVY.
Goosebumps. Yes. All of it. Thank you for spreading your love, Alyson.
We all need to do this – intentionally, strategically, joyfully and compassionately – for there to be any change in our country.
HeidiFebruary 22, 2018 at 4:41 PM
This post brought tears to my eyes. I love reading a message of such positivity during a time of such polarizing negativity. And you are so right, so often kind words aren’t spoken because we are rushed or caught up in our day to day life. A great reminder to spread kindness.
Robyn LillyFebruary 22, 2018 at 9:24 AM
What a great post and reminder to show the world kindness. Your words brought tears to my eyes bc you are such a kind and real soul who shares here life here on the inter webs! Keep smiling, laughing, eating, and sharing your kindness.
MandyFebruary 22, 2018 at 7:31 AM
Thank you for a blog that is REAL. I mean real emotion, real talk. I love it. And I love the unrandom acts of kindness. I try to do a few of these things already but this was a great reminder to try more.
AlysonFebruary 22, 2018 at 8:37 AM
You are so sweet, Mandy… thank you. I also loved the idea of Unrandom Acts of Kindness and am so grateful to my friend for referring to it this way.
Sharon BryanFebruary 22, 2018 at 9:44 AM
Thanks Alyson. You reminded me that a kind act or word can mean something in this moment of our life. Keep up your spirits. It’s always so nice to see your friendly smiling, laughing face.
JoyFebruary 22, 2018 at 6:46 AM
Thank you for the heads-up! It brought tears to my eyes! I try to do this each day. I find giving others true heartfelt compliments, hopefully brings joy to them, but helps to make my mindset and outlook of my day better too. I too have worried about being perceived as “creepy”. But, I try to focus on keeping it truly from the heart and hopefully it comes across in that way.
AlysonFebruary 22, 2018 at 8:31 AM
Joy, I’m absolutely sure that it does and kindness really has such an incredible impact and ripple effect! We are definitely not creepy, lol. 😉
AndreaFebruary 21, 2018 at 10:50 PM
Always be kind. It is your center. – I try to remember this and think I mostly do. Nothing leaves an impression like kind words
AlysonFebruary 22, 2018 at 8:30 AM
You’re so right Andrea!!
JackieFebruary 21, 2018 at 7:02 PM
Thank you for the important reminder to be kind and to verbalize or act on our kindness. Sometimes I am shy and think that my kind words or actions might not be welcomed, but, as you pointed out, it may be just the thing to help brighten someone else’s day.
AlysonFebruary 22, 2018 at 8:30 AM
Exactly… remember you might be the only person sharing those thoughts and imagine the positive impact you can have on someone’s life. I always know how those unexpected compliments or acts of kindness make me feel, and how those good feelings linger… what you say and do really does matter.
OanaFebruary 21, 2018 at 4:04 PM
I’m an introvert, and only recently have I realised that 90% of the kind thoughts I had never made it out. I was used to just thinkinking about how gorgeous someone looked, for example, and for some reason felt like it was enough to just think it. Now, people I know notice that I am making an effort to express my feelings, and they really appreciate it because when they do come out in words, I really mean what I say.
AlysonFebruary 22, 2018 at 8:29 AM
Absolutely, Oana… it’s incredible to have that self realization and put yourself out there more to ensure others are hearing the kind words you’re thinking. You should be really proud!
ShiraFebruary 21, 2018 at 10:51 AM
Such an important post and I love this so much. I’ve been thinking about this all week, wanting to do this for a family friend that passed away suddenly on friday. Thank you for this.
AlysonFebruary 22, 2018 at 8:27 AM
I’m so sorry for your loss, Shira. I’m so glad this resonated with you and that you can lend kindness to others during these times.