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What You’re Missing When You Watch Your Kids Through Your Phone

What You're Missing With Your Child by Staring at Your Phone by popular Florida lifestyle blogger, The Modern Savvy

I’m so guilty of wanting to preserve every moment.

Let’s call it what it is: I’m a sentimental memory hoarder. As much as I can easily toss most of my kiddos art work in the trash (shhhh!), I somehow feel compelled to remember and document every moment.

Ironically that currently means having 7,924 photos on my phone yet very few in any sort of printed photo album (I do have solutions in mind for this… just need about seven more hours every day).

The point is that do you know what you’re missing when you watch what your children are doing through your phone or camera, in an effort to somehow capture the moments?

You miss the moments that matter.

I’m reminded of a recent visit to Chuck E Cheese where Sarah was playing skee ball. I took the photo above and then decided to put my phone away, instead of what I’d normally do: hold it in my hand, perhaps take more photos or even not even realize and open up Instagram to aimlessly scroll and read about other people’s lives instead of living my own.

By keeping my phone in my purse, do you know what I saw?

MAGIC. I saw pure magic.

I saw her roll the ball, watched it roll down the lane, and flip up into that incredible little 1,000 point bucket in the corner. Yup, people — in this case, an eight year old! — actually land those shots.

I don’t know who was more elated. We were high five-ing, hugging and living it up like people who just won the lottery.

I know I felt like I did.

Not only did I see her land that seriously awesome shot, I saw her. And, I saw her look at me looking at her.

My brain and memories soaked in every single second and emotion… it was perfection.

It might be only skee ball but something hit me in that moment.

I say I’m more focused on quality time over quantity — yet I don’t practice what I preach, not the way I’d like to at least.

We hold mini computers each day where we can call people, take photos, do banking, meditate, organize our calendar, listen to music, play games, and even a days worth of work.

No wonder we have a hard time removing the glue from our hands to put the thing down.

But study after study tells us how bad it is for us. It’s bad for our happiness, our relationships, our focus and our health.

And, most importantly it’s bad for our kids. It’s bad for them to see us picking a device over them, and it’s bad as they start to model our behaviors.

We all deserve an escape and a break. I think it’s just time I did more of that without grabbing for the phone. I need it as much as they do.

Have you ever thought about what you’re missing by living through your phone?

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    Ashleigh
    June 23, 2018 at 6:11 PM

    I am so guilty of this! I have so many photos (I do print mine, I use the free prints app!)
    Now that my kids have their phones, it’s opened my eyes to how cold it feels to have these stilted conversations with our eyes always downcast and our fingers flying. I’ve instituted electronic-free time, and it seems to help, but still.
    There’s a whole world out there for us to live in.

    -Ash
    stylizedwannabe.blogspot.com

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    Jessica
    June 22, 2018 at 3:33 AM

    This is sooo lovely dear, and I couldn’t agree more, especially this – “You miss the moments that matter.” Smartphones are really embedded in our society right now, but we should make a conscious effort not to make it get in between us and our loved ones.

    Jessica | notjessfashion.com

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