I’ve realized more and more recently that it’s less life circumstances and more mindset that can create a truly joyful life.
Ever know someone where something is always wrong, there’s always a problem, they’re always sick or it’s always a bad week? What a downer. I can’t imagine that person leading a happy, joyful life.
Look, it’s easy for us to have crappy weeks where things just don’t go our way. BUT, let’s talk big picture here for a minute.
The #1 way to lead a joyful life:
you must have a positive mindset.
I’m not saying anything groundbreaking here but I think it’s incredibly important to reiterate and let this soak in.
Once people get to know some of my health struggles they’re often surprised because I rarely talk about it. Why would I? It’s not super uplifting to talk about a rare medical condition with chronic nerve discomfort (my feet are always tingling and can’t tell temperatures well, and if my medication is wearing off my back starts burning), along with serious bladder issues, etc.
I don’t get into it for two reasons: 1. no one wants to hear that on the daily. 2. It doesn’t bring joy to my life so why give power to it with my words each day?
Look, you can’t ignore real issues and it’s incredibly important to talk to someone. Heck, I was just spilling my guts to my counselor yesterday and it felt so good. I literally leave feeling lighter.
I’m a human with real issues, two kids, a 13-year marriage, a career, aging family members, a nagging ankle injury and recently broke my toe (in my closet, no less). We all have it. Your stuff likely comes in another form but it’s all stuff. Hard stuff that complements the beauty in our lives.
I’m not one to pretend to think I have all the answers or can do this on my own. I take time to walk through grief, and I have down days but I also quickly realized that our mindset and outlook on life are incredibly powerful forces.
Have you ever smiled while in a bad mood? It instantly lifts your mood.
Fake it til you make it. It’s the truth.
If you struggle with a positive mindset or feel like life has not been in your favor, I get it. It takes time to form any habit. Start a gratitude journal, find time to talk to a counselor, go to the gym or have your own vent sesh/real talk sessions with a trusted friend. I love doing that during a walk or during a mani/pedi session.