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Mother Daughter Journal

Mother Daughter Journaling to communicate with your little one // the modern savvy

Talking face to face can be really hard… even at 37 with my friends, let alone my eight-year old. I saw somewhere on Pinterest I think the idea of a mother daughter journal as a more comfortable way to create a dialogue, and a special place that only we share. Needless to say, the expressive writer in me thought this was really awesome. Mother daughter journaling — like a secret diary! — just for us. And by the way, I know we’re calling it mother daughter journaling but you can just as easily do this with your son, with your spouse, with your best friend or with your mother.

Even at this young age, Sarah is facing tough topics like friendships, body confidence, hurt feelings, family dynamics, school stresses, and more. More than adults who can understand our emotions, it’s so important for children to have a safe outlet.

Since I often get a “fine,” or “good” in response to just about everything, I thought this journal could serve as an effective tool… while also providing some stealth reading and writing practice at the same time. Go mom go!

Our Mother daughter journal has become one of my favorite parts of our relationship. This journal is something only we share; we have talked about everything… places we want to travel, a friend who hurt her feelings, our birthday plans, and everything in between.


Let your little one pick out a journal or decorate a notebook to make it a special moment. Make sure it’s clear that it’s just for the two of you. You want to keep and earn trust.

As for content, the key is balance. When you are sharing a journal with your child, it’s about creating and nurturing the entire relationship, not just diving into the tough stuff. That’s heavy.

Lighten it up by asking fun questions, brainstorming adventures, talking music or movies, or start a story you want her to complete. It’s all about maintaining communication, and nurturing a trusted relationship where she knows she can talk — or write — to you about anything.

Sometimes we write in our mother daughter journal daily, and other times a week can go by. We each take turns and surprise the other by leaving it under our pillow. We are the only ones to write and read; no guest writers or snoopers allowed.

I’m so excited about what we’re creating and can imagine having this special mother daughter journal five and 10 years from now. I can see this being hugely effective for teenagers, and something special to read through again years from now.

Mother Daughter Journal by popular Florida lifestyle blogger The Modern Savvy

How to create a mother daughter journal // the modern savvy - Mother Daughter Journal by popular Florida lifestyle blogger The Modern Savvy

Mother Daughter Journaling, a helpful way to communicate with your tween and teen // the modern savvy - Mother Daughter Journal by popular Florida lifestyle blogger The Modern Savvy


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    February 20, 2018 at 7:25 PM

    This is such a lovely idea! Great way to bond with your daughter.

    Jessica | notjessfashion.com

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      February 20, 2018 at 9:38 PM

      It would even be a fun way to bond with a partner or family member!

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    February 15, 2018 at 2:52 PM

    This is genius! I’m starting TODAY with my newly 8 year old:) Can I ask if you use it to ask questions or to write messages to each other, or both? Love this, Alyson.

    Heidi || Wishes & Reality

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      February 20, 2018 at 9:45 PM

      Woohoo! Hope you got started. So, we write questions to each other and messages. I asked Sarah where she’d like to travel, and it started a whole conversation about NYC. 🙂 You can ask, tell me three places that make you happiest, tell me something I don’t know about you, your five favorite people, what can we do together for a mother/daughter date, etc. Have fun with it!

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    Shira Rosenbluth
    February 14, 2018 at 10:18 AM

    I absolutely love this idea! Such a great way to help kids express themselves.


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      February 20, 2018 at 9:45 PM

      Absolutely… would be so fun for you to share something like this with your little sister, too!

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    February 14, 2018 at 9:59 AM

    I LOVE this idea and I am going to try it with my 12 year old son!

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      February 20, 2018 at 9:45 PM

      LOVE that idea, Eileen!!

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    Olivia Poncelet
    February 14, 2018 at 9:55 AM

    So adorable, lovely article
    Nice pics too 🙂
    have a wonderful day !
    Olivia Poncelet <3

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    Kimberly Smith
    February 14, 2018 at 7:53 AM

    So happy to hear you’re doing this too! We started ours when Lauren was in 3rd grade and we have kept it up ever since. It has helped so much with keeping lines of communication open and tackling difficult subjects in a non-threatening way.

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      February 21, 2018 at 8:28 AM

      That’s really incredible, Kim. It’s amazing to see the difference it makes when you make communicating fun like this.

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