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Wellness Wednesday: The #1 Thing To Do Today

You will learn to love yourself... here are 20+ things that means today // the modern savvy - Wellness Wednesday: The #1 Thing To Do Today by popular Florida lifestyle blogger The Modern Savvy

Today you’re about to reset your brain with Wellness Wednesday.

Do you know how many women walk around “mean girl-ing” themselves?

If someone else did and said these things so many women do to themselves, you’d absolutely call it bullying.


But somehow you’ve given yourself permission to say you are less than, to think your thighs are too big, that you’re not smart enough, not talented enough, or that you don’t deserve more.

That is not OK in any capacity.

The #1 thing today you are going to do is a really big thing. 

Because in order to do anything else, you must start here.

Today, on this Wellness Wednesday, you are going to decide to love and accept yourself.


Even if you don’t believe it today, you are going to start working to not be the bully that’s holding you back from the greatness you are capable of and deserve.

You are not going to let that bully deep in yourself think you are less than.

Because letting that bully win means in the end, no one wins.


When you decide to really love yourself, here is what you are going to do:

You will take pride in yourself.

You will start caring less what others think.

You will start caring more about what you think.

You will feel confident you can accomplish that deep, scary goal you so want to fight for but are afraid you could fail.

You will love yourself enough to know that even if you fail, you are strong enough to get back up and try again.

You will be proud about the strength of your own body.

You will not let that bully inside you give a crap if the scale isn’t where you want it to be.

You will learn to live with any perfections that stare at you in the mirror (knowing that honestly, you are the only one who sees them).

You will recognize that in reality, there are no imperfections; there are simply signs of a life well lived, of a life worth celebrating and a body that has fought to become the person you are today.

You will believe you are capable.

You will stop pushing back on compliments because you feel you are not worthy.

You will start accepting compliments until you believe them deep in your soul.

You will learn to love spending time with you.

You will eventually realize you are your own best company…. in a restaurant, a movie theatre and in your home.

You will realize how smart you are.

You will place value on nourishing yourself from the inside out.

You will not put yourself in places or situations that make you feel bad about yourself.

You will seek out activities, people and places that give you joy.

You will love you, honestly, wholly and without fault.

You will realize you are enough.

You will believe you are worthy.


This is a lot. This is asking for something that perhaps in 30, 40, 50 or 60 years you haven’t done. Change will not come overnight but you are worth investing in. You are worth trying this hard to feel good and fulfilled deep in your soul.

No one else has the right to dictate your worth, and you sure as hell shouldn’t set the bar so low.

If you set your own bar high, others will follow.

You deserve way more than you have had. You deserve it all.

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    Sharon Bryan
    January 7, 2018 at 9:41 AM

    Thanks Alyson, I’m your 60 year old. You are always a fresh spirit for me and I think this wellness series will be wonderful. Just what I needed this dark day. I have been negative talking for so long and with you as a guide and your followers I hope to break the cycle. Sincerely….

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      January 8, 2018 at 12:13 PM

      Thanks so much for taking the time to comment, Sharon, and encouraging you to hold yourself to your words. It’s so easy to negative talk, to dismiss compliments, etc but you’re worth it. We’ll get there together. <3

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    January 4, 2018 at 7:49 PM

    I love this so much! It’s a tall order but I’m certainly going to try:) Happy New Year!

    Heidi || Wishes & Reality

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      January 8, 2018 at 12:14 PM

      You are far too fabulous not to absolutely love yourself. <3

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    January 4, 2018 at 3:05 PM

    Thanks for the reminder Alyson, and I must admit I am guilty of constantly devaluing myself. I can’t imagine it will be easy to embody the characteristics of someone who loves themselves just as they are.

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      January 8, 2018 at 12:15 PM

      Definitely not easy but worth it. And, as you work toward improving the areas of yourself you want to focus on, love what you have today. You’re super awesome.

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    January 3, 2018 at 7:12 PM

    Yes. This post is now my 2018 resolution! Thank you!

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      January 8, 2018 at 12:35 PM

      Print the bullets as a daily reminder that you are worth all of these things. 🙂

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    January 3, 2018 at 6:01 PM

    I hope to get here one day. Such an important reminder!


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      January 8, 2018 at 12:35 PM

      Fake it until you make it, be sure to say thank you, and never be the one knocking yourself down. <3

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    January 3, 2018 at 5:18 PM

    So beautifully written I could cry! Such a great reminder, thank you 🙂

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      January 8, 2018 at 12:35 PM

      You are too kind, and so glad this resonated with you. We could all use a bit more kindness, especially starting with ourselves.

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    Kellyann Rohr
    January 3, 2018 at 10:39 AM

    I was a WW leader for 15 years and I used to tell my group this all the time. They’d beat themselves up and berate themselves all the time. When I’d point out to them that they’d never speak to another person this way I could see the lightbulbs going off and the AHA moments happening! It is hard work and something we need to remind ourselves of daily! Thanks for a great reminder!

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    January 3, 2018 at 9:41 AM

    I really needed to read this. Thank you!

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