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Vent Sesh: Creating Success In Your Own Terms

Growing a business the past six years has been an interesting ride. I never even intended to start the PR company; what quickly evolved from me freelancing with a little baby and recovering from a severe diagnosis and grew as I found myself excited about the prospects of cool new clients and the ability to help them grow their businesses.

But as soon as I started saying yes and hit go, it was all about growth, growth, growth. (The photo above was taken in 2013 for this story).

I’ve learned over the years that everyone wants to know how “big” your company is… how many employees, how many clients, the size of your office space. It feels like that’s how many prospects and new contacts define quality.

It’s like starting a family. As soon as you get engaged, you get asked when you’re getting married, then having a child, and it continues. When are you having another child?

The assumption is that bigger is always better.

It’s time we changed that perception.

I’ve been going on autopilot for years, without reflecting, simply focused on growing my company, growing my blog, growing/raising our family and keeping the machine going.

Then all of a sudden this year, I didn’t feel happy. In fact, last fall I felt really “eh” though I couldn’t put my finger on why. Then my dad passed away.

It was time to hit pause — an important moment we all need, even without a big moment to force us into it  — to reflect on where I was, and where I want to be. Not me as a mom and wife, but me as in Alyson, this girl. What did I want, and what was missing?

I felt an imbalance. My days were driven by growing my businesses when I wanted to focus more on my kindergarten student who was learning to read and write, and often frustrated. I sought a deeper connection with our two-year old boy, to give him the attention he deserved, and to help him as he tried to find his voice.

I discovered that I actually loved speaking in public about my story, overcoming major medical obstacles, entrepreneurship, girl-bossness and all the related topics. I love writing, and I find such passion in this blog and connecting with other women like you. It brings me to life like you wouldn’t believe.

I knew I needed to focus on my health and get to the gym more regularly; I wanted to find more opportunities to volunteer as a family, and honestly, just not be so frazzled each day trying to get it all done before the next day came around again.

At the same time, I love helping local businesses and nonprofits.

The thing is, running a business is hard work. And, as my business grew I began doing less and less of my passion and more of the bills, invoices and apologies. Let’s be honest, the later kind of sucks.

It took some honest reflection and lots of conversations about where I want to go and what brings me joy to realize what I ultimately needed to do.

I decided “growth” for the PR company isn’t what this business owner wanted, at least not now and not in this form. And, that’s OK.

Success is not defined by size, it’s defined by impact.

I decided back in February for our office space to go virtual and keep our staff small but mighty. I no longer wanted our pricey office space on a busy street to validate our capabilities (people always loved hearing our location near a popular restaurant; I swear they thought we were more talented because of the nearby tacos!), and removing that expense could actually keep our salaries the same.

I’ve been really honest with the team along this journey and luckily they’ve been on board with my crazy. I recognize that’s not easy.

So after months of build up, we moved out of our office space last Wednesday. I had been so pumped talking about this — because I know this is ultimately want I want in the long term — but honestly, the last week has been rough, both physically and mentally. I can’t even get into issues with IT and phone lines, and now that I’m at home, I basically need to discover some major self control so I don’t venture into the kitchen every 20 minutes. The struggle is real, ladies.

A small part of me feels like I’m going backwards because I’ve done the home office business before but the larger part of me sees this as an amazing opportunity to really refine everything, and be more thoughtful about the decisions I make for myself, my family, my businesses and my clients.

It’s easy for days, weeks and even years to fly by before you realize you’re not where you want to be. It happened to me six years later, like a slow build up that just went WHAM.

Stop. Think.

Are you happy and feel joy about your life big picture?

If not, that’s OK.  Start thinking about the steps you can take, and don’t worry about what others say. I know there are people out there that will think whatever they will about the success of my business, but hey, people don’t get blogging as a business either.

I brush it off, focused on success in my lane, in my terms.

images: Palm Beach Post

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    September 8, 2016 at 2:03 PM

    This is without a doubt my favorite Vent Sesh to date! What you shared resonated so deeply with me as I’m in much of the same boat & we are trying, as a family, to figure out what things we can control and where we can make changes to improve our situation. So inspired by reading your journey here & cannot wait to see what the future holds for you!

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    Tove Maren
    September 8, 2016 at 10:25 AM

    THIS! So much THIS!!! Thank you for the reminder

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    September 8, 2016 at 10:10 AM

    I completely understand where you are coming from. As a career woman myself who is driven to meet certain standards of success, it can become more about the image of success to others than what it truly means to feel at peace and accomplished. It’s wonderful that you can make these changes in life and open yourself up to other fulfilling possibilities. I look forward to seeing how it all unfolds.

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    September 8, 2016 at 10:05 AM

    Don’t know if you’ve seen any of my introspective Instagrams recently, but the process you went through is definitely something I need too. I’m not as happy as I want to be and I know that it’s time to make a change, even though it’s not easy. I’m trying to to reassess my priorities and figure out what I need to do to be in a better place. Kudos to you for realizing what you needed and taking the leap! Thanks for sharing 🙂

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    September 8, 2016 at 9:14 AM

    You are amazing and you can totally do this! So proud of you!

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    September 8, 2016 at 7:04 AM

    So very excited for you. Please keep us updated along your journey. Always helps to know otherso have this struggle as well. I have always told people that asked me why I didn’t grow my business as much as possible that my kids are only little once and I need to make the best of my time with them then I will focus more on my business

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    September 8, 2016 at 6:02 AM

    Congrats on doing what is best for you and your business. I really admire that you have your own business and are so successful 🙂

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