How to Push Past the Fear

You want to push past the fear. I get it.

Days are fleeting. It’s so easy to go about our day, and then and another, and all of a sudden another year has passed.

We talk about our dreams but are you going for yours?

And, what’s holding you back?

Have you stopped, really thought about what you want to accomplish, write it down and put a plan in motion to get there?

Or, are you making excuses for yourself?

It’s easy to make other things, other people, a priority.

You can’t do this because your boy has so many basketball games, your day job is demanding, you even have chronic medical issues.

Trust me ladies, I’ve been there.

I’ve been through all of it.

And, I’ve certainly made excuses.

But you know what? Do you know the only thing I have to show for it?

REGRET.

Regret for wasting another day, another year.

In my instance, one professional regret is not launching a YouTube channel. I’ve wanted to for ages but I keep making excuses.

I don’t have time, I don’t know how to create video, how to edit, the lighting isn’t good, what equipment do I use.

So I keep doing other things, and meanwhile, time goes on, and I continue to miss opportunities.

I’ve basically given up — yet wasted countless mental hours — before I even started. #lame

What are you passing up?

Be honest….

Do you have a fear of failure, or rejection or of being inadequate?

Recognizing this is an important first step.

So what do you do now?

Here is how you can push past the fear:

Decide what you really want. Will you be 80 wishing you did what you are dreaming about now? Do you wish to do something big? Or do you simply want to live a more simple life, which involves clearing a way a lot of clutter (things, people and/or commitments)?

Admit your excuses. See, I admitted mine. Once you admit them, you can write them down and tackle each one. Waking up an hour earlier, researching, taking small steps each day gets you one step closer.

Have a can-do attitude. Often the biggest reason for fear or not doing something is simply convincing yourself you can’t do it. Well, just as I tell my daughter… you can either think you can’t and wallow, or you can problem solve and find a way to get it done. The later clearly seems like the better route.

Stand away from the crowd. Many of us live our life by following along. That’s OK, but sometimes you have to move away from the crowd so you can see the more clearly see your own path.  Stop listening to others (or find people who want to lift you up, not bring you down or stifle you), and start listening to your gut that is trying so hard to tell you that you are capable.

Know there will be failure. Guys, if you’re talking about a goal or dream so big you have to first push past fear, recognize you also might not be successful the first time around. That’s OK. Ever super successful person talks about fear for good reason. Making big things happen takes risk, and you might fail a few times in order to get to the goal line.

Enjoy the reward. You know that feeling of elation, victory, that incredible feelings of satisfaction when you accomplish something or conquer a fear? Know that you will get there. Be confident in yourself because you are capable. With great risk, comes great reward.